Volume 6 2014 Chapter 1049 Shackles
Yi Haoyan is very smart.
He immediately understood what Professor Jin meant.
The problem lies in the concept.
The professor felt that he was restricted by certain ideas.
Of course, these are just the issues analyzed during a consultation, and such judgment does not represent the final result.
Moreover, even if the cause of the problem has been determined, it cannot be solved in one consultation.
The formation of concepts is a long process and the content is very complex. Changing them cannot be achieved with just a few words or in a day or two.
This kind of subconscious cognition and concept is not something at the conscious or mental level, and it is difficult to change immediately. It is very different from the so-called "enlightenment".
This kind of thing hidden in the subconscious is usually stubborn and takes a long time to adjust.
The time of recovery depends not only on the ability of the counselor, but also on the client himself.
Psychological counseling can only help clients solve problems, but cannot directly solve their problems.
Ultimately, it is the patient himself who solves the problem.
Psychological counseling is very similar to medicine, but not exactly the same.
Medical treatment can directly solve the problem through medication or other treatment methods.
However, psychological counseling can only guide clients to discover problems, understand problems, and then correct and solve problems by themselves.
Compared with medicine, psychological counseling works indirectly.
But in a broad sense, the two are the same.
On the surface, it was the medicine provided by the doctor that solved the patient's problem.
In fact, except for some special medicines, most medicines only help the patient's immune system to overcome the disease. For people who have no immune system at all, no medical treatment can save them.
From this perspective, medicine, like psychological counseling, is only an auxiliary.
Jin Changhe hopes to make Yi Haoyan aware of the existence of the problem through consultation first.
Only by facing this problem can we make change.
This is a prerequisite.
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The person who cares most about Yi Haoyan's awakening is Yi Cangdong.
I didn’t get a chance to communicate with my brother the last time I came here , and now that he has finally woken up, he quickly flew to Seoul.
However, Yi Cangdong was not in a hurry to see his brother.
He went to see Jin Changhe first.
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"Haoyan is limited by his own ideas?"
After listening to Sun Enxi's translation, Yi Cangdong frowned.
"At present, this possibility seems to be the greater. I wonder what kind of experiences did Young Master Yi have in his childhood that would lead him to such a cognition?"
The person opposite might be the relative who knows Yi Haoyan’s growth experience best, and Professor Jin also wants to know the reason from him.
"It seems to me that there is nothing special about it..."
Recalling the past, Yi Cangdong couldn't quite find the point and could only say whatever came to his mind.
"Haoyan is different from me. He was more obedient when he was young. He has always followed the rules and was a good kid."
“Are there any special events or experiences?”
"Perhaps the unexpected death of his parents led to some changes? But I'm not sure, because he was already a teenager at that time. However, judging from his performance in the past few years, Haoyan does have outstanding talents in some aspects, but in some aspects he seems to be worse than ordinary people. I don't know why this is the case. Maybe his mother is stricter with him? Because when I was young, my family was very busy and didn't pay much attention to me. Maybe there is some kind of compensation in him?"
"It doesn't necessarily take some extraordinary experiences to lead to this way of thinking, but the reality is that Master Yi does have problems in this regard. He sets too many rules for himself, and they are very demanding."
"I also think that for a child from a family like ours, he is a little... too well-behaved . He seems to just treat himself as an ordinary person."
Sun Eun-hee feels the same way.
"Now I have reminded him to pay attention to his own conceptual problems. This is the first step. He may make adjustments slowly in the future. But Master Yi is indeed different from ordinary people. He reacts very quickly. He has even realized my purpose before I reminded him. If he starts to pay attention to his conceptual problems , some unexpected changes may occur."
Professor Jin has a lot of experience, but this is also the first time he has met someone like Yi Haoyan. Out of caution, he has something to say in advance.
"What's the meaning?"
There have been too many unexpected situations happening recently, and Yi Cangdong and Son Eunxi are both very concerned.
"During the previous consultation, Master Yi had already realized that it was the subconscious ideas that restricted his behavior. So in the future, it is very likely that he will strengthen his thinking and logic at the conscious level to challenge this subconscious constraint. If he regards this subconscious idea as a shackle, he will definitely try to break it. For example: if he feels that the moral requirements for himself are too high and too harsh, and this is the reason that leads to his depression, then..."
"Will he lower his moral standards?"
Sun Eun-hee was confused.
"Maybe that's the case, maybe not so gentle. It's possible that he will break the moral code of the past and even completely overturn the entire framework."
Professor Jin was a little worried.
"What does this mean?"
"I don't know either. It's impossible to predict. Everyone is different. But from past cases, some people, after realizing the constraints of their ideas, will follow the guidance of counselors and try to change slowly, while some people are more extreme and will completely break with their past ideas. In other words, they will completely become another person in some aspects."
"Is this going to happen?"
Eun-hee was a little panicked. She couldn't accept that her lovely brother suddenly became a different person.
"There is a probability, and only in certain aspects, because the change is not drastic and sudden, and often no one notices it at the beginning, but in fact it will change completely. For example, moral constraints are necessary for everyone, and this is not a problem. The problem is that it will be painful if it is too harsh. However, completely breaking the constraints will cause people to have moral collapse and do things that they could not have done before. For example, in the past, people were afraid of some things and did not dare to try them for fear of failure. Later, they may become bold and do many irresponsible things. All of these situations are possible."
“This change is not necessarily a bad thing.”
Yi Changdong is different from Son Eun-hee, he has never been a "good kid" since he was a child. He has a different opinion on Jin Changhe's speculation.
"Professor Jin also mentioned that this is a change at the subconscious level. This change only affects his behavioral tendencies and does not affect his conscious judgment. In other words, facing the same thing, Haoyan's intelligence level and analytical ability have not changed, but his style of doing things has changed. He was conservative and steady in the past, but he may become impulsive and radical in the future. Or, in other words, he may like something in the past, but he may hate the same thing in the future. Is that what you mean?"
"That's right. The subconscious mind affects people's behavioral tendencies, but it cannot completely determine their specific behaviors. This change only means that the direction will change, but it is not clear to what extent."
Professor Jin understood what Yi Cangdong meant.
"I think this tendency has changed, becoming less morally sensitive or less concerned. Judging from Haoyan's current situation, it wouldn't be a bad thing if it becomes like this."
Yi Cangdong’s attitude is very clear.
"If it's just a change in tendency, it's certainly not a big problem. But we can't actually determine the results now."
Jin Changhe has more considerations than Yi Cangdong.
"For example, elephants are very strong and humans basically cannot restrict or control them, but elephants are also highly intelligent animals. If you lock and prevent it from breaking free, the elephant will form a habit or a concept over time. In this way, even if the elephant grows up and its strength cannot be restricted, it will not break free of the chain that it could have broken free of, because of the limitation of its concept. And Master Yi may be such an elephant. Now that he realizes that he is tied up, he will try to break free, but he has been bound all this time. Once he breaks free from the shackles of the past, he will face a reality. He does not know the boundaries of reality like other elephants because he has never tried it. What consequences will that have?"
"To be a person who has power but does not know the limits of his power?"
Sun Enxi found it a little unacceptable. Such people usually act recklessly, and many second-generation chaebols in TV dramas are like this.
"It's just a possibility, not an inevitable result. If the treatment goes well, the patient should be able to remove the chains peacefully and relearn new rules. This is our wish. But Master Yi is not an ordinary person. This is the first time I have encountered such a patient. I can only tell you the worst possibility first so that everyone can be prepared. This treatment is a long process, and nothing will be surprising."
Professor Jin feels that the case of Yi Haoyan is also a challenge to himself.
"It's okay, these are just small things."
Yi Cangdong was not as worried as Son Eun-hee.
He had other ideas.
As the head of a rising chaebol group, Yi Cangdong does not refer to common concepts when it comes to the training of his own people, especially his closest brother.
Breaking the shackles is more important than anything else.
