Volume 8 Final Chapter Chapter 1197: Love to Fight for the Ladies
"Uncle Nan, how should we change it?"
"There is a line in the Jin Ping Mei Ci Hua, 'How to bear the light', which is similar to what people now call cheating. 'Bear the light' is a more elegant way of saying cheating. Wang Po taught Ximen Qing the five-word mantra for seducing women: Pan, Donkey, Deng, Xiao, Xian, saying that if you master these five words, you can bear the light everywhere. Do you know what these five words mean?"
Pei Lan blushed and nodded.
"In the 1950s and 1960s, women of marriageable age attached great importance to the political background and family composition of their spouses. Progressive women would give priority to party members, soldiers, government officials and rural cadres.
As long as the man's political conditions are good, it doesn't matter if his economic, appearance, or age conditions are a little worse. At that time, the construction industry was booming, and scientific and technological personnel, workers, and farmers with good backgrounds were also very popular among women.
By the late 1960s, due to the special background of the times, the standards for choosing a spouse had deviated, and political standards became the only standards.
From the late 1970s to the early 1980s, intellectuals were sought after and women placed intellectuals in a higher position when choosing a spouse. Cultural factors rose to the first place, economic factors came second, and political factors were gradually ignored.
From the mid-1980s to the mid-1990s, economic factors dominated everything else. Because of reform and opening up, some people seized the opportunity to quickly become wealthy and became wealthy. Do you remember the popular saying at that time? "
Pei Lan said: "The one who makes missiles is not as good as the one who sells tea eggs."
"Yes." Nan Yi nodded, and then continued: "During that period, public officials and employees of state-owned enterprises resigned and started their own businesses. Going into business became the most discussed topic in the whole society. People no longer avoided talking about money, and the first choice for women in choosing a spouse was the man's family financial conditions.
Because people began to open their eyes to the world, the good things pouring in from foreign countries were dazzling, and if you want good things, you need money.
From the mid-1990s to the beginning of the new century, the criteria for choosing a spouse began to diversify, with feelings as the main factor and economy as a secondary factor. Women began to pay attention to the quality of marriage, and the outlook on love and marriage shifted from focusing on the outside to the inside. In the process of choosing a spouse, more and more attention was paid to feelings, quality and ability.
Of course, economic factors cannot be ignored, but compared with emotional factors, family conditions are not what most women value most.
Because during this period, the domestic economy was developing in full swing, both women and men could work everywhere, especially the vast number of rural women, who moved to cities and entered factories, where their bodies and minds were liberated. As long as they were willing to work hard, they could achieve financial independence.
Women in this period were the most independent and confident, and most of what they got was not dependent on their political background or family background..."
Nan Yi showed his hand and turned it over and over, "It was created by their own hands. As they are financially independent, they crave for spiritual abundance and emotionally they long to find their soul mates.
In the late 1990s, from a male perspective, it was relatively easy to find a woman to marry. If you met a female worker you liked in an industrial area, you could share a bottle of soda, a bowl of fried noodles, go ice skating, watch a video, spend a few months with her, and then take her home to hold a wedding.
Here, we have reached a watershed. Starting from 2000, the marriageable youth are those born between 1975 and 1985. This group of people can be divided into two groups based on 1982. The thinking of those born in 1982 and before is relatively similar, and their views on mate selection are influenced by the previous group.
When they don't know each other well enough, they think they have found their soul mates and get married in a hurry. But after living together for a while, many women find that their lovers are not as good as they originally imagined.
He no longer looks handsome when smoking, and he occasionally played cards to win some dating money, but he played cards every day and lost every day. He farts and grinds his teeth. He doesn't like to brush his teeth. The smell in his mouth is so irritating that it can kill people. When he does sex, he only makes two or three groans before he dies. There are flaws everywhere on his body.
Those who are less fortunate will be beaten, slapped, punched in the chest, kicked in the stomach, and their hair grabbed and slammed against doors and walls. They are treated as harshly as possible and there is no mercy at all.
It is this group of people, among whom a considerable proportion have unhappy marriages. They have inherited the shortcomings of being submissive from the previous generation, as well as the idea that divorce is shameful, and the greatness of silently enduring for the sake of their children.
They will not choose divorce easily, but their marital misfortunes are displayed or told to this generation of women who are about to reach marriageable age.
Women born between 1975 and 1985 are influenced by themselves and other social realities, as well as exposure to diversity, material and living standards since childhood. They have realized the benefits of having money from an early age, and the desire for money is engraved in their bones.
At the same time, they are in a period of rapid social change. Whether in childhood, adolescence or youth, they are facing a completely new world, a world that is completely different from their older brothers and sisters, and has been fundamentally changed.
For them, the word "stable" is no longer applicable. The guaranteed job is gone, universities have expanded their enrollment, and making money seems to be not as easy as before. Drifting in the big cities, they have to get up early and go to bed late every month, catch the bus and subway, and spend two or three hours on the road commuting to and from get off work. They are exhausted, and at the end of the month, they can't save much money unless they live frugally.
There is another very important thing, house.
Without a house, your heart will always be wandering and have nowhere to rest. You know how expensive housing prices are now. Most people cannot afford to buy one square meter even if they don't eat or drink for a month. Excluding food and drink, it is already remarkable to save two or three square meters in a year. This is assuming that housing prices do not rise.
But the reality is that housing prices are rising at a desperate rate, and it is impossible for most men and women to buy a house in a big city on their own.
In addition, the gap between the rich and the poor has widened again, and the lives of the rich are displayed before our eyes in various ways. The strong contrast has caused many women's outlook on life to collapse and made their views on choosing a spouse tend to be perfect.
The other person should have a higher education than yourself, be 1.8 meters tall, have a good figure, good taste in clothes, not smoke, drink, or gamble, be responsible, be able to make money, have a car and a house, and be good-looking. Most importantly, he must love himself.
Usually, women who have such thoughts are average looking, well-mannered, and have average body shape in real life. Most of them like to watch TV series and eat snacks while imagining that the male protagonist in the plot is their boyfriend.
They are often not sociable. If they are a sociable person, they will clearly recognize the true nature of real life, but unsocial women can only fantasize.
Why do women choose their partners in this way? They tend to think highly of themselves, have low demands on themselves, but have surprisingly high demands on others. There are many reasons for this.
First of all, it is human nature to have low demands on oneself and high demands on others. This is not only true in terms of choosing a spouse, but also in our daily interpersonal interactions.
When you make a mistake, you will make excuses for your crime in your heart, but once others make the same mistake, or a smaller mistake, it will be magnified. When others achieve success, some people will think, if she didn’t have a good family background, would she have achieved such results? If I had her conditions, I would do better than her.
Nowadays, women emphasize that they should be given meticulous love and care, and they should be the ones who are taken care of. This means that they overemphasize the importance of themselves and ignore the interactions in interpersonal relationships.
Secondly, due to the development of the Internet, especially the emergence of blogs, more and more women whose love and marriage are not perfect are writing articles to teach other women how to love and what kind of views on love and mate selection they should have. In order to get more clicks, such articles often stand solely on the side of women, because women have the strongest consumption power in the world and their emotional needs are also quite strong.
When I was browsing forums and blogs, I found that the theories of exclusive love and the secrets of love are popular now. These remarks tend to elevate women blindly, make women feel recognized, and tend to have their thoughts controlled by these remarks.
A person's thoughts and behaviors are easily influenced by the surrounding environment. When one of your friends is fat, the probability of you becoming fat is greater than the average person. When your friends smoke or take drugs, the probability of you falling into depravity will also increase.
When a woman is exposed to that kind of speech every day, her thoughts and behaviors will change unconsciously, and she will feel that she understands the truth of the world, becoming arrogant and looking down on others.
In their hearts, many women don’t actually know what kind of person they like. Without ever getting along with others, it seems that the safest and most secure way is to follow the majority’s thinking.
Therefore, they have low expectations for themselves and high expectations for others, which becomes their only criterion for choosing a partner. They do not understand what an intimate relationship is, and some have never even been in a relationship.
Another reason is mainly reflected in urban women. They are lucky enough to catch up with the popularity of the saying that daughters are raised in wealth. Many girls are little princesses at home and have never suffered any hardship in life, so don't expect them to suffer with their other half.
They don't want to change their previous lifestyle, nor do they want to become a wife who has to endure hardships with her partner. They just want to find a partner who is no worse than themselves, or preferably much better than themselves.
Matching with someone of a higher social status is the mainstream view of mate selection among women today. Since they are unable to change their current bad situation, they want to achieve a higher social status by getting married.
The thinking is like this, some people just stay in thinking and won't make it concrete. This is the kind of people I mentioned earlier who eat snacks and watch TV series. They can only imagine that they are God's illegitimate daughters, and a good partner will be blind to find them accurately in the vast crowd.
Some will make it concrete, take action, and work hard, but the vast majority of people don’t know in which direction to work hard, and can only bump around like headless flies.”
Nan Yi picked up a piece of Ruyi Cake from the plate, put it in his mouth, took a small bite, and then put it down, "Now, let's go back to your big list. It is actually a concrete manifestation of your mate selection concept. Everything is done for your daughter to marry into a wealthy family in the future.
If you lower the level a little bit and help more women to refine their mate selection, you can do this business in batches, repeating it over and over again. It’s boring but profitable.”
Pei Lan's eyes shone with light, and he blurted out, "Five Elements Love and Marriage Master."
Nan Yi nodded, and then explained to Pei Lan the concept of "Love to Fight for Celebrity Shopping", emphasizing the love of fighting, from fighting for food and drink, fighting for clothes to carpooling and auctioning involving Luo Tong's luxury car rental business, and then to fighting for medical beauty.
Xinsheng Plastic Surgery Hospital will launch promotional activities such as half-price for the fifth person and discount for multiple people. If you want to have double eyelids, you can make an appointment with someone who wants a nose job or a chin reduction, so that you can enjoy a certain discount; if you make an appointment with someone who wants a head transplant, you will get more than just discounts, not only will the double eyelids be free, but you can also get a considerable commission.
Nan Yi gave Pei Lan a complete business concept and a perfect community of partners. A business model can benefit many surrounding relationships, stimulate consumption, and contribute to the country's economic development. It can be said that he killed 108 birds with one stone.
This is the professional quality that Nan Yi demonstrates as an economic expert, and his great sentiment of putting the country first.
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Suzhou, Taihu Golf Course.
Nan Yi and Wen Wan stood on the lawn, watching a group of children of all ages playing a golf game not far away.
What is going on is the Huayi Little Sun Cup Challenge Competition. Children from both the management and engineering lines of Huayi can participate. This year is the eighth session. In order to keep a low profile and to arrange travel activities at the same time, the competition will never be held in Beijing.
"Changhui played the ball well."
"He spends six days a month at the stadium."
"You work so hard, you want to become a professional player?"
"I failed to defend the ring last year, and someone took my place as champion. I've been trying hard to get it back."
"The little guy is very competitive, just like Biaozi."
"Resemble him?" Wen Wan said noncommittally, "I think he looks more like me."
"If you say so, then so be it. Tell me something I care about."
"Huayi Chip is working on achieving full domestic production of 70 nanometer chips, and optimistically it will take four to five years."
"70, Intel is already deploying 45 nanometers, and this time it will introduce High-K technology and innovate materials."
"You think too highly of Huayi Chip. Our current technological limit is 60 nanometers. We will first achieve full domestic production of 70 nanometers, and then tackle 60 nanometers. For the time being, 45 nanometers can only remain at the design level."
Nan Yi continued, "I'm just complaining. As an outsider, I don't have the right to comment on the direction of Huayi Chip's development. Besides, it's not convenient for me to say anything more."
"Although Huayi Chip has been included in the country's semiconductor strategy, it cannot change the fact that you are the founder and investor of Huayi, nor can it change the fact that you are the largest individual shareholder." Wen Wan said in a sonorous and powerful voice.
Nan Yi smiled faintly, "Hua Yi's largest shareholder is the Workers' Union, the second largest shareholder is state-owned assets, and the third largest shareholder is you."
Wen Wan was surprised and asked, "Are you planning to reduce your holdings?"
Nan Yi nodded, "Yes, I plan to give you half of the shares of Snow Mountain Trust for holding on my behalf. The dividends will still belong to me, and the shareholder rights will be given to you. The other half of the dividend rights will be donated to the Disabled Persons' Federation, and the shareholder rights will be given to the Employees' Union."
Wen Wan didn't understand Nan Yi's actions.
"Hua Yi is already on the right track, and there will be considerable dividends every year. Wouldn't it be too impulsive for you to make such an operation at this time?"
"It's not impulsive." Nan Yi waved his hand. "I'm retiring after success. My original intention of establishing Huayi was to contribute to the development of the country's semiconductor industry. Now Huayi is on the right track. On my side, the initial investment has also paid off. There will be a good dividend every year in the future. I am satisfied. I am relieved to leave Huayi to you."
Wen Wan pondered for a long time, sighed and said, "You are so willing to do it."
"Haha, you can be willful if you have money."
“Will there be a donation ceremony?”
"Goodbye, enter the village quietly, don't shoot, Hua Yi and Nan Xin, these two names are enough."
Wen Wan said happily: "The Nan that Nan Xin announced to the public is not the Nan that you are talking about."
"Love whoever you want, as long as I feel it's right."
After chatting for a while and discussing an important matter, Nan Yi left Taihu Golf Course and appeared at another golf course. Aija and Liuzi were also there, and the two were having the final competition on the green.
The two of them came to Jinling with Nan Yi to meet Zhang Ning of Jindong Electric, but there were some rules for the meeting. They couldn't just go to the other company directly, as that would seem too aggressive and they would be easily suppressed by the other party when negotiating terms. So the two of them went straight to Gusu, played golf for two days to adjust their mood, and then invited Zhang Ning to come here to play golf and talk about heroes.
Nan Yi went up to the green and took a look at it from a distance, then went to the bar in the club area to chat with Li Jialong.
Li Jialong left Dream Town and came to Suzhou to compete for the position of the head of Jinji Lake Lijiaopo Industrial Park. After winning the competition, he stayed here to be in charge of the affairs of the industrial park. He did not climb to a higher position in Temasek, but stayed where he was and shifted his attention to his own investment business.
Xin Investment has co-invested with Li Jialong's Lion City Asset Management in multiple projects. Li Jialong is not well-known nowadays, but he has a considerable fortune.
Lion City Asset Management manages more than US$10 billion in funds, and the funds mainly come from wealthy people in Southeast Asia. His stay in Suzhou does not prevent him from establishing good personal connections in Southeast Asia.
After the greetings, Li Jialong asked, "Are you familiar with Godong?"
“You want to invest?”
"JD.com is looking for investment, and I have received an investment plan," said Li Jialong.
"Oh, not really. I don't really care about the development of e-commerce, but I do know a little bit about Liu Daqiang. I worked with him for a while."
"How are the people?"
"It happened more than ten years ago. At that time, he was still a college student, a young man with a green head. After so many years, he should not be the same person as before." Nan Yi waved his hand, "I'd better not mention it, so as not to affect your judgment. If you want to invest, just let your people contact him and make an assessment."
Li Jialong nodded, "That's for sure. What brings you to Gusu this time?"
"Something happened in Jinling, so I came to Gusu just to see you. It's been almost six or seven years since we last met, right?"
"Not that long ago. In 2003, I went to Beijing to find Weijing and we had dinner together."
"The time after the capital was lifted from lockdown ?"
"Yes."
“It’s been quite a while.”
The two people who had not seen each other for a long time soon started reminiscing. During this period, Nan Yi met many old friends whom he had not seen for a long time. He was already familiar with nostalgia. They went to bars, ate, and drank tea. After going through the whole process, it was already ten o'clock in the evening.
Nan Yi didn't want to fall asleep yet, so he asked a taxi driver for directions and came to a bar called Back Street.
