Volume 2 2010 Chapter 194 A Scattered Heart
Kwon Eun-bi is very happy.
No matter what, Yi Haoyan's expression couldn't lie.
Although he tried his best to keep his tone calm, I still keenly caught the obvious panic on his face at that time.
This is the first time the girl has taken the initiative since they started their relationship.
You know, since the identities of the two were accidentally exposed on the first day of school, Quan Enfei has been in a somewhat passive situation, and has been suppressed by Yi Haoyan.
Whether it was when both parties clarified their true identities or when they went to school and tutoring together afterwards, Enfei always felt a little cautious.
Although the two get along well, the strong-willed girl is still a little bit unwilling to accept it. Is it a disadvantage to fall in love with your real name? This time, I finally got it back!
Hehe! Haoyan oppa also has that kind of helpless expression!
It’s because of me!
happy!
For the first time, the girl intuitively feels her charm and status in this relationship.
Yi Haoyan was a bit messy.
What made him uneasy was not the sudden strong side of the girl, but the unexpected surprise.
He was confused by his own heart. Although he had deceived Eun-bi, he could not deceive himself.
Why do I feel a sense of enjoyment when my girlfriend suddenly becomes strong? Am I actually a weak person who likes to be dominated?
ah!
How is that possible? I am a man of seven feet tall! I can stand tall and proud! How can I be a little puppy!
No! We have to ask Professor Jin! This is very important!
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An intimate stage with only one audience.
Two naive students in love.
A couple who received an unexpected surprise together.
Two completely different and unique feelings.
In the early stages of a relationship, the process of two people slowly getting closer is the most addictive .
This process is full of unknowns and curiosities, and each time you understand more, you will have different feelings.
Just like the chocolates in the box, you never know what the next one will taste like.
This one was at least a delicious surprise for Quan Enfei, but for Yi Haoyan it had a strange taste that made him feel intoxicated.
Hmm~
The genius boy is a little uneasy now~
This secret must not be known to anyone!
The boy, who was a bit sensitive, concealed his personality very well and acted as if nothing had happened, deceiving everyone around him.
No one, including Kwon Eun-bi, Bae Joo-hyun and Son Eun-hee, knew what was going on in Yi Hao-yeon's heart .
Until he saw his psychiatrist.
"Professor Jin, is it normal for me to feel this way?"
The boy looked serious and worried at the old professor sitting on the sofa. As a person who lost his parents, he could only seek answers from here.
"Haha, all psychological needs have reasons. Everyone has their own preferences, it's not strange."
Professor Jin is always so calm, and his years of experience have given his words a reassuring effect: "You said that you seem to enjoy being with strong women? That's not surprising."
“How do you explain this psychological need?”
Yi Haoyan was very curious.
In addition to Eun-fi's performance in that dance, he later reviewed his own life. It seemed that he really had no way to deal with strong and independent women.
Sister Eun Hee is a typical example. Sister Jessica is also like that.
Why is this?
Professor Jin took a sip of tea and explained slowly, "Maybe it has something to do with the fact that you lost your mother too early. Parents are very important in a child's growth process. In addition to providing material security, they are also an indispensable part of a child's spiritual growth. Many psychological problems arise from the harm done by the original family in childhood."
Yi Haoyan listened attentively and seriously.
"You have a high IQ, strong logical thinking ability, and your perspective and depth in looking at problems far exceed those of your peers. But this does not mean that you are mature inside."
The professor's words directly revealed the boy's inner secret: "Spiritual maturity cannot be learned through logic and reason, but requires the accumulation and experience of various life experiences. And that is exactly what you lack."
"Why do I lack this kind of accumulation of growth?" Yi Haoyan didn't understand at all.
"Because you grew up in an environment where your family protected you so well. You were taken care of by your parents and brother before, and now you have your sister and aunt to care for you. You have a privileged family background and a worry-free life."
Professor Jin carefully analyzed Yi Haoyan's life: "You didn't have much contact with society when you were growing up. In addition, you are very capable and prefer to be alone. As long as you don't want to contact society, no external force can force you to integrate into society."
"But I have a deeper understanding of society than many older people!"
The boy retorted unconvinced.
"I agree and acknowledge that."
Professor Jin agreed with a smile: "But where does this understanding come from? It comes from the words and deeds of your loved ones, from books, and from your own understanding and thinking."
"Simply put, these understandings of society all come from rational cognition. Haoyan, you are very smart. Through books and other people's stories, you can quickly accept and comprehend deeper truths. This is your advantage. But this does not mean that you really understand everything, because these are almost not personally experienced."
"I don't understand." Yi Haoyan shook his head, unable to understand the professor's explanation.
"Give me an example!" The teenager rarely showed any sign of not understanding. Professor Jin smiled and explained, "It's like losing weight. We all understand the principle. Eat less and exercise more, and you will lose weight if you consume more than you absorb. Many people know this. But there are very few people who can actually lose weight."
"Losing weight is something you have to do yourself. Money, status, friends and other external factors cannot replace the process that the body must go through. No matter how good the coach is, or how advanced the equipment and exercise methods are, they cannot replace the pain that the body must go through."
Yi Haoyan looked at Professor Jin intently, seeming to be touched.
"The same is true for spiritual growth. Only through experience, feeling, and pain can one truly comprehend and grow. Relying solely on rational thinking without personal feelings and emotional experience will ultimately remain superficial and difficult to truly mature."
"Because of my inner immaturity, I subconsciously like strong women? This is illogical!" The boy still disagreed.
"That's not the case. An overly superior environment and meticulous care will stifle the space for individual independent growth and make you subconsciously dependent on this environment and care."
Professor Jin smiled and continued, "But the unexpected death of your parents has changed the external environment you are used to, and you have lost the familiar care you used to have. When you are in a state of depression, you may not have time to pay attention to this inner need. But when the situation improves, you will gradually return to your previous mental state and seek people who can guide and lead you."
"And you yourself said that you are more familiar with your mother than your father. So your subconscious mind will dominate your behavior pattern, making you tend to prefer more independent women who can provide guidance, which is what you call a strong sister."
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There was a moment of silence, and the boy lowered his head in thought. This attitude spoke for itself.
Professor Jin is right.
After a while, Yi Haoyan suddenly looked up and asked in confusion: "But not all sisters are strong! There are also very gentle sisters, such as Sister Zhuxuan. I like her too!"
"This is not contradictory. Gentle people are often powerful. What you really yearn for is not someone who looks strong, but a woman with inner strength."
Professor Jin kept smiling as he spoke words that the boy could not understand for the time being.
