Chapter 244 Broken Heart
In many cases, even the deepest feelings will often change with the passage of time or due to external factors. The case of Lu Jun and this girl is one of them.
Although they had a good relationship before and had pledged to each other privately, this seemingly strong relationship was still extremely fragile in the face of reality.
Although Lu Jun was admitted to the Imperial University of Peking and became a college student, he was also a child of destiny.
After Lu Jun graduates, his job will be arranged by the state, and he will be a cadre as soon as he graduates. From this point of view, he has a bright future.
But all this is in the future. Lu Jun is only a sophomore now , and it will take nearly three years for him to graduate. Even if he is arranged a job after graduation, it is still unknown what the situation will be. Moreover, college students who have just started working are unlikely to have any savings. If we have to wait until Lu Jun has a certain economic foundation and strength, it will probably take several more years.
The reality is so simple. Long-term beauty is far inferior to immediate benefits. Lu Jun is 24 years old this year, and the girl is one year younger than Lu Jun, 23 years old this year. But according to Lu Jun's graduation age, he will graduate at the age of 27, and the girl will be 26 years old.
People get married relatively early in this era. According to the current legal marriage age, men are 20 years old and women are 18 years old (the legal marriage age in the 1970s was changed to 22 years old for men and 20 years old for women after the promulgation of the new Marriage Law in 1981). Compared to this age, Lu Jun was actually over 20, and so was the girl.
Moreover, it . They don't get a marriage certificate first, but just hold a wedding banquet in their hometown and then get a marriage certificate after reaching the age limit with a letter of introduction. Therefore, it is not uncommon for a family of three to get a marriage certificate while holding a baby, especially in Zhongyuan Province.
Being unmarried in her twenties is considered "old and unmarried". The Central Plains Province takes this very seriously, so the girl's family and the girl herself have been criticized a lot as they grow older. Moreover, although the two are in a good relationship now, who can guarantee that this relationship will not change? If the girl continues to wait for Lu Jun foolishly and waits until Lu Jun graduates from college before getting married, if Lu Jun suddenly doesn't want the girl anymore, wouldn't these years of youth be wasted? How can an old girl get married by then?
Faced with this situation, the girl and her family could not help but waver under the persuasion of others. If such a thing really happened, wouldn't it mean that all their efforts would be in vain? This result was something the girl and her family could not afford.
It was for this reason that the girl's psychology began to change. At the reminder of a "kind-hearted person", she once asked Lu Jun indirectly, intending to get a marriage certificate as soon as possible to confirm the relationship. But at that time, Lu Jun didn't pay attention to the girl's real thoughts at all. He just thought that the girl was asking him when to get married. Subconsciously, he still answered that they had agreed to get married after graduation. This answer disappointed the girl.
From then on, the girl had her own plans. Besides, she was good-looking, so many people introduced her to potential partners. Later, through the introducer, the girl met a self-employed man. Although the man was a bit older, he was already 28 years old this year, and being a self-employed person was not a serious job, and he was not as handsome as Lu Jun.
But she couldn't resist fact that he was really rich. This man was a "ten thousand yuan household" in the surrounding area. He gave the girl's family a generous gift (a pair of pure gold bracelet and earrings) when they first met. He often went to the girl's house to help with everything. He was sweet-mouthed and eloquent, and very generous. As a result, the girl's family was very satisfied with this man. Under such a financial offensive, the girl's original reservedness was gradually shattered by the other party.
Finally, under the generous conditions that the other party promised to pay a betrothal gift of 2,000 yuan, prepare the four major items of marriage and thirty-six legs, the girl's parents readily agreed to the marriage. The girl herself did not object and just acquiesced to the fact.
In fact, many people in their hometown knew about this, but they kept it secret from Lu Jun and his family, mainly to avoid trouble.
When the girl's family quietly began to prepare for the wedding, Lu Jun was still like a fool believing in the vows of love and intoxicated in love. But when he left his hometown and returned to university, his beloved woman had already entered the bridal chamber with music and became someone else's wife, and it took him a long time to receive such a breakup letter.
After learning all this, Lu Jun couldn't accept this fact at once. He felt like he was struck by lightning. He left his fellow villagers in a daze and didn't know how he returned to school.
Walking on the campus, Lu Jun felt that the whole world was dark, as if everything had lost its vitality, and he seemed to have lost the meaning of existence.
"Third brother...the relationship of so many years...is actually not worth the 2,000 yuan betrothal money. I can't understand it, I really can't understand it!" As he spoke, Lu Jun couldn't help but shed tears again.
Looking at the heartbroken Lu Jun, Song Yuanchao couldn't help but sigh in his heart, this is the fact, the fact is so realistic and cruel. Although Lu Jun has his own reasons, the girl and her family are also important factors. The 2,000 yuan betrothal money, the four big items and the thirty-six legs are just a catalyst.
The feelings of this era are very simple, but there is also no lack of exchange of interests, but it is not as obvious as in later generations. As a person who has experienced it, Song Yuanchao is very clear about this, and he understands the reason why the girl and her family finally made such a choice.
Age, customs, and so on, are just excuses. If the girl really wants to give Lu Jun a chance, she can just explain the situation directly. Nowadays, there are no restrictions on college students getting married, and there are many married students in the school who even bring their children to class. If the girl explains the situation to Lu Jun, based on Song Yuanchao's understanding of Lu Jun, Lu Jun will definitely agree.
But the girl's words were ambiguous. From this point of view, the girl was subconsciously ready to break up with Lu Jun. She did this just to find a suitable excuse to convince herself.
In addition, the more important thing is the betrothal gifts. 2,000 yuan is a lot of money, and a family with a net worth of 10,000 yuan is even more admired in this era. Although the girl's family is not blinded by money, they are certainly tempted by such a rich and capable son-in-law. In addition, with real money in front of them, it is natural for them to agree to this marriage after weighing the pros and cons.
Lu Jun is not a fool, he is a college student of Beijing University, if he has a problem with his IQ, he would not be admitted to the university. Although Lu Jun is a little bit lower in emotional intelligence, it does not mean that he has no judgment ability, not to mention that he knows the girl and her family very well, so after learning about the situation, he immediately understood the real reason.
"A man should have no trouble finding a wife. Stop crying. If you keep crying, people will laugh at you." Seeing Lu Jun's sad look, Song Yuanchao pulled him up and put a cigarette in his mouth. "It's her loss that she doesn't like you. You should be glad that you recognized a person's true face earlier. She will regret it later. You have a bright future and a long way to go!"
Lu Jun nodded vigorously. Song Yuanchao's comfort made him feel much better. But even if he said that, what would the truth be? Even if he graduated and got a job, how much could he earn with his monthly salary?
Just now Lu Jun mentioned a mere 2,000 yuan, but this 2,000 yuan is not a small amount. The monthly salary of an ordinary cadre is less than 100 yuan. It will take two years to save 2,000 yuan without eating or drinking.
Compared with the ten thousand yuan households, it is unlikely that they can save as much wealth as the other by living on salary for a lifetime. For a moment, Lu Jun felt confused. He didn't know whether he went to the right university. He worked hard to finally get into the university, and then worked hard for four years of study. After graduation, he worked hard for nearly ten years, but the income was not as much as the one year of a self-employed person?
When Lu Jun said these words in his heart, Song Yuanchao was silent for a while. He understood the confusion and doubt in Lu Jun's heart, and he knew that what he said was indeed the fact.
In the early days of reform and opening up, this situation was indeed widespread and existed for a long time.
In the past, there was a saying in society: "Those who make atomic bombs are not as good as those who sell tea eggs."
This sentence clearly proves the fact that a senior intellectual, a respected leader in the industry, earns far less than a person who sets up a stall to do small business.
Now, Lu Jun was thinking of this, and the cruel reality shattered his inner pride.
Money is not everything, but living without money is absolutely impossible.
Song Yuanchao understood this principle very well. Humans are social animals. In society, all needs can be represented by money or value. As college students majoring in economics, both Song Yuanchao and Lu Jun knew this very well.
Now, having lost his love, Lu Jun is shaken and confused about his future. Song Yuanchao understands this very well, but he doesn't know how to comfort and enlighten him for a while.
After thinking for a while, Song Yuanchao suddenly had an idea. He patted Lu Jun on the shoulder and asked, "Sixth Brother, is everything ok now?"
"What can happen to me? Thank you, third brother. I feel much better now that you said that. Don't worry, I won't do anything stupid." Lu Jun thought Song Yuanchao was asking about his mood, so he forced a smile and replied.
"I'm glad you're okay. Come on! I'll take you somewhere." Song Yuanchao pulled Lu Jun away without saying a word. Lu Jun didn't know where Song Yuanchao was going to take him for a moment, and subconsciously followed Song Yuanchao out of the school gate.
